Lots of good nuggets from The Theology of Dad:
The obsession with not wanting to appear judgmental (the chief sin in our Post-Modern world) is because we know that our lives cannot stand up to scrutiny. I call it the "American Beauty effect."
Now, I hate bashing conservatives, but they do tend to believe their lives can stand up to scrutiny, and that is why they are more inclined to adhere to objective morality. Both approaches are wrong. As Tolstoy said, I love the truth so much that I teach it even when I fail to live up to it, or something to that effect. I agree. Conservatives love rules, because they have managed to abide by them. Liberals hate rules and love compassion because they recognize their own incompetence.
Conservatives are proud and liberals are libidinous. Conservatives see themselves as alphas, liberals betas. Kids of divorced parents see themselves as betas and try to cast that in the best light possible. One way is to say that the rules don't matter and that they were created by bad people anyway. Sounds a lot like Karl Marx, doesn't it? It's the quintessence of left-wing psychology.
And since this is so, gay cannot make you feel better about your shitty situation, at least not indefinitely, and this is why there is so much suicide. Especially by the most desperate, the so-called trans-gendered. All the sympathy in the world will not bring an end to the trans-gendered suicide epidemic. In fact, saying the rules don't matter, makes it worse for them, because they adopt a losing strategy, rather than seek the help they really need. They were not made into the wrong sex; that was not their problem; abuse and other things are to blame.
I definitely think it's easier to adopt objective morality if you have not been a hardened sinner, because if you have, objective morality condemns your behaviour. People feel that condemning behaviour amounts to condemning them.
As Colin said in his post, one way people deal with that is to throw away the rules, or at least reduce them to a bare minimum, so they can succeed in fulfilling them. That way, they are not hypocrites in their own eyes.
The good feeling is only temporary. You can't make yourself feel better simply by making up rules of behaviour and wanting to feel good. You have to respect the human make-up. And that's ultimately the tragedy of LGBT: the suicide is the result of not knowing what it takes to be happy. They think throwing away moral rules makes one happy. It doesn't.