Monday, November 18, 2013

Why We Don't Talk About Miscarriages

Part of the problem, I think, is that people (particularly nice, educated, middle-class, pro-choice people) are not sure what to make of the death of a fetus. Legally speaking, a fetus isn’t really a person but a part of a woman’s body. But that doesn’t mean a miscarriage doesn’t feel like a death. When a wanted pregnancy ends, a world of desired possibility is destroyed. A doorway to an imagined future of laughter, music and silly dancing is slammed shut.
It's not just the "possibility" that is destroyed.

I think that mental circumlocution is part of the problem.

A fetus is a human being. When you miscarry, you don't just lose potential. You lose what is. And until we come to that understanding, we'll always be uneasy about miscarriage.

The thing is, if we come to understand the fetus to be anything more than potential, it begins the slippery slope down to recognizing him as a human being.

H/T: ProWomanProLife